I agreed with David all day yesterday, and everything is so much better. The sightings haven't stopped, but at least I'm not trying to prove my point, by pointing out the truth of what he sees and doesn't see. I've been trying to reason with him, as if I almost forget that he has Alzheimer's.I've always been a very impatient person. It's too bad I can't buy some patience for myself from Wal Mart. However, hopefully I'm learning .......and...... I'm hoping I'll be a better person from all of this...
And I say, "thank you God for helping me keep my mouth shut and being agreeable on David's sightings."
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BRAVO, BRAVO to the incredibly lovely couple!!!!!
Hi Dolores,
I'm just catching up with you today. I could really relate to your last post as I vividly remember going through that with my mom. At first I would try to set her straight as I felt to agree with her would be almost like lying. Also I thought it would help her to know that what she was seeing wasn't real. Boy was I wrong. She would get very perturbed with me when I did this. I was told by one of the employees at the assisted living center that when they see things, they are very real to them and there is no changing their minds. So, I began to just agree with my mom and try to redirect her. Redirecting is another thing I have learned to be helpful. I am glad to hear that Sunday was a better day. I think about you often and hope you can try not to feel guilty. I know that can seem impossible. I am attending an Alzheimer's support group and every member has talked about the guilt and how hard it is when you have to tell "little white lies" from time to time. I hope you don't mind me rattling on, but I can feel what you are going through and want you to know that you aren't alone. I will pray for more good days for you and David.
By the way, that is a lovely picture of the two of you.
Hugs,
Kim
Delores, It's good not to disagree, but be very careful with that. He may see something that frightens or threatens him. If you agree to seeing what frightens him he may feel the need to protect you and get a little violent. (just a possibility) When he is calm, eplain to him that you know he is seeing what he is seeing and let him know that you dont see it. Is he aware that he has Alzheimer's? Explain to him that seeing things is a part of having Alzheimer's. Alzheimer's and Dementia almost always go hand in hand. If you tell him that everyday.. he will understand. When he say's to you... "Delores, do you see that cat over there"... try saying to him, "David, I know you see that cat, but I am unable to see it. Your Alzheimer's is causing you to see things." I am almost certain that he will begin to ask you what's real and what's not. It's worth a try. It work with my mom. (most of the time) There were times when she got a little out of hand... but those times were far and few in between.
xoxoxoxo
Donna Marie
You are doing so good and learning, loving and applauding.
Couldn't resist looking at this photo one more time ... just incredibly beautiful of both you and David. Hope your week is a good one, Ms. Dolores.
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