After tightening all the screws and bolts ...it feels like a new bench, no more rocking back and forth.
I want to spray paint it, but it's too windy today, so I left it sitting in the side of the yard, until I can paint it.
I was feeling so good about how well he is doing, that is...until we came in the house. He started worrying about us leaving the bench on the side yard. He said the bench would be in the way of the men and children who run around on the side yard in the mornings and afternoon. I looked at him quizically, and he proceeded to question why I haven't seen the guys that get on top of our house and the side yard........etc etc etc.... We moved the bench away from the side yard, and he was happy.
Luckily, the hallucinations don't frighten him! He talks as if it's a normal occurrence to have people on top of our house and running around on the side yard.....etc, etc.. . Oh the tales he tells!
And I say, "thank you God that David's hallucinations are not frightening to him!"
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I love you!!
I hope I can be as kind and gentle as you, when the need arises with Papa.
hugs judi
OK ... I love you too! I suspect one day in the distant future you will find that David has Lewy Body disease. Those hallucinations kind of tell the story. As long as they aren't frightening, all is good. Mother's were rarely frightening ... mostly of small sweet animals.
Your such a wonderful wife to David,I can feel the love all the way over here !
My MIL dosen't halucinate but has a wild imagination I suppose its the same thing in a way.
She woke up this morning and wanted to know how her son (my hubby) was doing.... I said he is in the living room you can ask him yourself,she replied ... oh I thought he was in the hospital, she was crying.
Every day is something new for them and for us.
God bless you both
Diane
I'm fortunate that my father did not have hallucinations, but now that my brother has been diagnosed, I fear the unknown. So far, it's just short term memory loss, but who knows what the future holds. I can only hope that I deal with it with the courage and kindness you do.
I'm glad they don't frighten your husband, but I fear you'll be moving that bench quite a bit!!
Barbara
Just sending you a hug today.
I hope everyone is getting comfort from reading your posts and people's comments. Mum had trouble with Dad wanting to put the cats and dogs out of the house (there were none) but he was happy when Mum opened the door to let them out. Another incident, was Dad getting concerned about the other person in the room.....he was looking in the mirror. Jenny
Hi Dolores,
I am always so touched by your kind, patient and loving ways with David's disease. I am also touched by the photos where your little doggy is by his side. So sweet.
Hallucinations are so strange, but I suppose they are easier to deal with when they aren't scary. The first time my mom experienced them was right after we moved her to assisted living. She was convinced that there had been a man standing outside her door with a gun and she also was certain that the assisted living center was running a drug ring. When I heard her saying this, I didn't know whether to laugh or cry. No amount of talking to her would change her mind. I learned quickly that when she experienced a hallucination it was very real to her and it was best not to try to talk her out of it.
The hallucinations are facinating. Perhaps he views them as some sort of friends or companions. Thank God he isn't scared. Can't wait to see the bench!
Karla
You are just so good, Dolores, and I am so happy to see David doing some things and feeling useful. I wouldn't worry about him having hallucinations as long as they don't frighten him like you said. May he have a lot of good days. Thanks for coming by and for your kind words....Christine
Your photos are touching and leave me with tender feelings toward both of you and your dog. My Mother-in-law does not have dementia, but does see little girls that aren't there sometimes. She is fully convinced they are though....
One thing for sure, life is very interesting and never boring for you!
Oh Dear one, how awful for you to hear David worry about those invisible people that are so real to him. But, as you say, thank God they don't frighten him. Glad you got the bench fixed for him to use. It is a pretty bench and I bet he will get many hours of good sitting out of it.
I just came by from Texas Bloggin Gals and was reading about David. I have my Dad with Alzheimer's and moved him from NJ to assisted living here and then to a nursing home last summer. He'll be in Texas four years this summer and is 91. He never should have stayed in NJ alone for as long as he did and it was only when he was visiting here at Easter and wandered outside and didn't know where he was that he finally agreed to move. I guess it even scared him. Up until then he was in denial and not even taking the Namenda half the time. People in NJ thought he was OK, but they never saw him putting the mail in the trunk of the car, etc. He had people fooled. I would speak to him twice a day on the phone and flew back and forth to NJ all the time. I know there were probably people that thought his awful daughter made him move.
I know it must not be easy caring for David yourself. It's got to be an overwhelming responsibility. I hope you'e able to get away for a few hours once in a while. It's very sad to watch...isn't it? I console myself with the knowledge that Dad is content.
Hello Delores, just stopping by to say hello and see how you are doing. I also hope you are able to get out once in awhile with friends. I hope that is the case. I do feel sad for David, but like you said, you are thankful for the good days and accept the trying ones. It appears that you have a very safe, familiar and comforting enviornment for David to live it. The pool is very pretty!
I am so glad they don't frighten him either...and also glad working on the bench gave him a way to feel productive.
He looks so absolutely HANDSOME with a beard!!! I hope you're both having a nice weekend!
I love you!! L~
Hi Dolores, your post and the comments made sound so much like my mother's actions. While she was at an assisted living, she thought the recliners in her room were children and she would bring them koolaid from the dining area. David is so blessed to have you care for him. I hope that there is someone available to let you get out of the house for some time to yourself.
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