Before Alzheimer's, David was always busy! He was working, going to meetings, doing things on the computer, jogging in the morning or evening (he started jogging in the 1960's, before it became 'the thing to do'), he loved yard work, playing with grandchildren, and church on Sunday.......he was always busy doing something. Today, I'm still trying to wrap my brain around the fact that he isn't busy, and how hard it is to find something he can do...............He's a good sweeper.....thank you God!
Two months ago it became apparent that David should stop going to his weekly Rotary meeting, but he didn't realize it. Rotary was the last of any outside activities, besides Sunday school and church that he was involved with.....he joined Rotary when he had Alzheimer's , so he wasn't an active member, but he always enjoyed going to the meetings.
I knew in my heart, and also heard that he was having a difficult time handling the meal at the luncheon.
I thought for sure he would say something during the week about going or not going to Rotary. He hasn't, not once! I have mixed feelings ....... I'm glad that he hasn't ask why he isn't going, but I'm sad that he doesn't remember.......... if that makes sense.
We had another good week!
And I say, "thank you God!"
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Glad you and David had a good week. I'm so sorry that David can't attend Rotary any more, but glad that he can still do certain activities around the house. It's actually amazing to see that he's still able to function at his current level, considering his recent score on his last mini mental test. Keep your spirits up, Dolores.
Love
Gilda
Things seem to change everyday, don't they? Some changes we like, others, not so much. It must make you sad to know that he is losing some of these connections but also knowing that he doesn't seem concerned, a little blessing. Praying for more good days for both of you!
Love, Karen kpaints
Then let David be the best sweeper around, Dolores! If he runs out of things to sweep perhaps you could create something to sweep!
I'm glad you've had a few good weeks lately. I'm sorry to hear about Rotary, tho. At least David doesn't seem to know he's not going.
I hope this week is superb!
Oh Dolores,
Yes this is a grief that it is wise for him to not go to Rotary.
My husband didn't join Toastmasters this time, but he still accompanies me when I go. When we went out last night where I was volunteering at a charity event, I couldn't sit with him. He forgot what I was doing there. I came to see him several times, and then as the evening wore on I realized that he could sit with me where I was selling raffle tickets.
Eventually the evening was too long for him and we were able to leave at 9:45.
We just do what we can do, don't we. It sure is hard, however, figuring out what the ALZ husbands can still do.
arg, Glad you had a good week, hoping the next week is just as good.
Out of sight out of mind... maybe it's a good thing.
Sometimes it is harder for us because we remember but we have to remember that it does not hurt them if they do not remember. Am I making any sense, Dolores? I am glad you like the jewelry I made. It is amazing how fast I can make one. I can finish a necklace in less than 10 minutes while blogging in between, lol. It is so easy....Christine
So hard for them to give up everything. No, I rephrase that. hard for us for them to give up everything.
I remember a time when Elbert headed off for his Lions Club meeting.... wrong place, wrong day. This was long before we really realized that Alzheimers was a word we'd come to hate.
well, there are hidden blessings in many things...
so cute to see him just sweeping for all he's worth. a man with a broom in his hand is appealing to most of us gals, huh? my honey is our *floor man* :)
hugs to you & David
I am sorry David can't go to Rotary meetings anymore. And it is sad he does not remember but good too. It does make sense. Send him my way I have lots of sweeping he can do. He looks great as always.
So glad to hear that you've had another good week. What you're saying makes a lot of sense to me. My mom was a lot like David in the way of always being busy. She had a lot of friends and interests. For her the last thing to go was the Red Hats club. It is sad to see the things they once found such joy in doing they can no longer do. Perhaps it is a blessing in disguise that they no longer remember doing them.
Your yard looks so pretty. David is doing a good job of keeping it looking nice.
Hello, Delores:
I cannot imagine what it must be like to watch David lose activities that he previously (or would have) loved. As your other commenters have noted, at least, David does not seem to mourn these losses. But maybe that is sad to realize, too.
It must seem that there really is very little to be rejoicing in each day and yet, you daily practice this spiritual discipline. I am humbled by this. I think of the lessons you teach me often.
Hugs from Iowa ...
My mom used to love to sweep as well! My floors were never as clean as after she had been her for a visit.
Yes, you do make sense, too.
Hooray for another good week. And yes, what you say makes complete sense. It always does.
Karla
I adore your moments together. Hold each other hearts & everything will be OK, although David couldn't careless.
Loving each other till the end is the most important. Let life dance with this wonderful world.
Embrace whatever or everything that you meet across your life.
God Loves You both.
Happy week-end.
Greetings from chilly Stockholm,
/chie
Makes perfect sense to me.
Alzheimer's steals away so much from those who live without the disease. The mercy for those who do is that generally they don't know what they can't remember.
God is good. All the time.
Love to you~
Rebecca
What Terryn wrote brought tears to my eyes!!!! I am also humbled and inspired by your continual strive to have a positive outlook...even though I know these are sometimes very painful times.
I love you!! L~
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