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Sunday, October 3, 2010

An October Memory


October brings back a memory ......   October 2005 was the first diagnosis of probable Alzheimer's (David  was 67 years old), he scored 18 out of 30, on 'the test.'    I had been suspicious for several years, always hoping it was anything other than Alzheimer's.

Several months later,  we had the 'official' diagnosis from Houston's Baylor College of Medicine Alzheimer's Disease and Memory Disorders Center after several days of testing. 
I 'thought'....if he really has the disease, he would be in the early stage, but the testing said moderate.


  The doctor in Houston  said no more driving for David.    Right there in the doctor's office he handed me his car keys, and has never once asked to drive. I'm blessed that he accepted this change, but I'll admit, I sure have missed him driving.


I can honestly say the year 2005 and 2006 were the saddest and scariest times of my entire life.    There were so many big life decisions,  so many changes, so many tears, so much fear,  and feeling so alone, even though I wasn't alone.

After the diagnosis I expected the bottom to fall out anytime, but here we are 5 years later, and David's doing better than I expected.    I truly believe the medications he's taken from the very beginning, (Namenda and Aricept) has helped to slow the progression.  

David's slowly declining, I can see and feel it,  but I'm so thankful that he still enjoys 'looking' at the newspaper, he still loves to go out to eat, go for rides in the car,  attend Sunday school, sweep outside, walk our dog,  and most of the time he's in a good mood.

David was  an outstanding grandfather (Pope).  He doesn't play and interact with the children anymore, but I am thankful that I have tons of pictures of him 
with the children.





Here he is today, looking at the newspaper.  

And I say, "thank you God for more time with David  than I expected in October 2005."

22 comments:

Helen said...

I don't want to make you sad on this Sunday ... I have just finished reading your words and looking at your photos and I am crying. Crying for me, crying for you, for David and for everyone who has to endure this agony.

Be at peace today, Dolores ....

Mrs. Sew and Sew - Karen said...

Delores, I am glad that David still enjoys the things he does. Great memories...I love the photos. Your grands are precious...just gorgeous. Many many blessings to you all, Karen

Carol Noren Johnson said...

Dolores,
You and I have the same road to go down with our 72 year old husbands and it is so comforting to have you as a blogging friend now. I hold on to everything you say and pray for you and David. You so encourage me with this blog. I am glad that as the years have gone on you have adjusted since the worst years of 2005 and 2006. You give me hope that I can adjust also. Your blog is so positive--moving forward, instead of moving backwards.
Hugs,
Carol

Gilda Spitz said...

Dolores, I am constantly amazed and inspired by your positive outlook. What an amazing achievement for both of you, to still have David home five years after diagnosis, especially since he was already in the moderate category at the time of diagnosis. In contrast, my father was in a nursing home only eight months after diagnosis at approximately the same stage. You credit the medications, but I think your positive attitude has been equally influential.

Best wishes on your sad anniversary, my friend
Gilda

Unknown said...

You are such an inspiration to everyone who reads your blog, whether they are in a situation like yours or not. It is totally unconceivable to imagine all the ups and downs you go through, every day...I am holding back the tears as we speak. David appears to be doing remarkably well, for the length of time he has had this, compared with others.
And you....God loves you and is giving you his strength to carry on, each and every moment. Love to you!

Diane at Crafty Passions said...

So heartfelt .... so truthful....
Small positive moments are our sunshine aren't they...They outshine the bad ones.
Stay strong and positive.
Diane

judi/Gmj said...

*sigh*, I know I should wait to respond, at least until the tears arn't fogging my vision. You are a great inspiration for me. Between you and My Uncle who is still taking care of his wife, I know I can go on and do this. hugs, judi

Sugar Bear said...

Dolores,
You always are able to look at the brightside and I'm sure that has also helped keep David in good spirits. Blessings to both of you!
Hugs,
Karla

Barbara said...

As Clynt turned 60 on Saturday, I thought - what journey will I be taking with him as the years go on? Will he stay as he is, or will he slowly lose everything?

Whatever that journey is, I hope I deal with it with the love and compassion - and humor - that you do. You're my hero.

xx
Barbara

Anonymous said...

I ditto Helen. I feel such a sense of sadness looking at all these beautiful pictures...but also very thankful that Uncle David is doing as well as he is doing. No matter what stage he is in...one thing will never change...he is a beautiful person inside and out ~ as are you!!
Love you! L~

xinex said...

It's been 5 years, Dolores and that is a lot to be thankful for. It's really good that he is still reading and so nice that you have kept pictures of him and the grandkids.....Christine

Mary @ Neat and Tidy said...

I'm glad you are making it through this disease day by day. Give David a hug for me.

Donna said...

"Walking" With you, little love.......Love the photos!
HUGHUGHUGS

Terynn said...

There really are no words to convey the pain in my heart, as I read your words, which share your personal pain.

Thank you for trusting us with your heart, memories, trials and fears, as well as your triumphs (and they are many).

Love from Iowa to TX...

Vickie said...

Hi Dolores - such a sweet and positive post. God has richly blessed you and David with 'time'. Time to spend together and with family, time to adjust to that terrible diagnosis in 05 and 06, time for you to become the strong person that you've become. I know all of us wonder about the future, but you've shown us all how to take each day at a time and look for all the positive things and the blessings that can pour down from heaven above when one is truly thankful. Thank you Dolores for your example.

KathyB. said...

Your grandchildren are just beautiful. I love the picture of David sharing a cup of "tea" with the little princess in pink. The pictures of him hugging and holding the children are so precious.

I love the quote by Elmer Laydon in your previous post, and that seems to reflect your attitude toward all things and also most likely why life with David is still such a blessing for you both. I ditto all the other commenters', thank-you so much for sharing your journey with David through Alzheimers.~bless you Dolores

Janean said...

dolores, i understand and agree: PTL for time. time to adjust. time to process things. time to love. time to accept.

gentle hugs for you & David.

Karen said...

Ok Mom...this one really got me all misty eyed! I agree with you, that dad is doing much better than I thought he would be doing, this many years into it.

I am very grateful for the time the grand kids had with their pope. The pictures are wonderful, but also make me sad and mournful.
To be honest, I so miss the Pope that played and interacted with his grandchildren! He was so much fun for them and he always acted like he thoroughly enjoyed being with them. (tears now flowing down my face) I so miss my daddy as he once was.... I know you miss him too.

I love you mom and I know this journey hasn't and isn't easy but you have done it with such a positive attitude and grace.

Love you a ton!
Karen

Thoughtfully Blended Hearts said...

This is sort of "not me" but when I read this post...I just thought...DAMN this horrible disease!!! We have a friend who has just been diagnosed...we knew though...I think your David has the most wonderful caregiver in the whole world!! Take care of yourself my friend...
Hugs
Becky

karen said...

He looks great reading that paper. I sure wish we had gotten mom on her meds sooner. You did a great job getting him on his early. I know moms helped her but we just did not get her on them early enough. Anyway the pictures of him and the babies are wonderful and you guys still have many wonderful yrs ahead. Good luck and thank goodness for those memories.

Joy said...

The girls are so darling! Great photos to remember better days by. And the last one of David reading the paper--did anyone else notice the advertisement? 'In God We Trust'... Very appropriate, Delores!

Unknown said...

This post was so helpful to me. I suspected my husband had early-onset several years ago. It has slowly crept in an out. I remember in the beginning re-reading the symptoms thinking, Oh, this is my imagination. Then after reading them I would always cry, because I knew it was true. I think Alzheimer's is like 1,000 deaths a day somedays. When my daughter and I went back to Toronto for a visit, as we crossed over to the other side of the border I wept. I wept because I remembered what a strong and happy man her dad had been while we lived there. Thank you for this blog. It's like food for my heart.

Karen

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