When I started this blog two years ago, I didn't think of friendships developing .... silly me..... I feel a sweet bond of love and concern for each and every one of you that I correspond with. When you're happy, I'm happy, when you're sad, I am too. Anywhoooooo.... I just wanted to say, "thank you for being my blogging friends."
Our family vacation in 1993 to Angel Fire, New Mexico- SWEET MEMORIES
Over the Christmas holidays our daughter and my best friend sat me down and talked with me about getting help with David, so I can get out by myself for a few hours or a day. I tried to change the subject with them, but they've been relentless.
Angel Fire, New Mexico 1993- SWEET MEMORIES!
I called an agency today, and after discussing what they can do, I must admit that I'm feeling relieved and almost excited at the thought of having some help once a week.
Thank you Karen and Nelwyn for your love and concern!!!!!
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Take the help when you can. My only salvation right now is that I can escape to my own house. It won't always be that way, and I dread that. Don't feel guilty - you're no good to David or yourself if you're exhausted or frustrated.
I'm so glad I met you and my only regret is that we don't live anywhere near each other!!
Much love,
Barbara
Delores,
Oh, my sweet friend, thank you for your kind comments regarding my last post. You always make me feel so encouraged and uplifted.
I am grateful you are taking time to renew your spirit and ease the physical demands of being a caregiver. It does take its toll---sometimes this is more apparent to others than it is to us. I pray God gives you new insights, new inspirations, and renewed strength as you find time for you.
Blessings to you today, my dear friend. I pray that, one day, God will grant us the opportunity to meet each other and spend time reflecting on our lives.
Until then, know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
In Grace,
Marie
OK! Thank you for being you. You don't need to have reasons for what you do. Live, love and care; which you already do.
It will take a long time to be able to do this and feel comfortable with it. Getting slightly off track, this may sound silly, but stick with the full button up shirts as often as you can so that David can get used to them. Best wishes, Jenny
Good title? "Adjusting to My Own Time" maybe.
Blogging us such a good outlet for those of us taking care of our husbands. When my ALZ husband goes with me in the car, he often is annoyed with something--another driver, how long I take to do something, etc. Yes, it will be better to go out by myself unless it is a very short trip.
Dolores, glad that you can arrange for a little time away and praying that David adjusts and that you can enjoy.
Hugs,
Carol
Trust me you need to get out. I am so glad you are going to start taking a day off. You will feel lost at first. But you will get over it. If you don't get out than it will get harder and harder. The longer I go without going some place the harder it is to make myself go when someone his here to take care of mom. And making it the same day every week is a good idea because you can plan what you need or want to do. I am so happy for you. Enjoy!!!
This could be great for you and for David. Does he like to visit with new people? You are living in the very center of one of the greatest places I know, so I know there are lots for you to enjoy there. Give it a try!
Deb
Oh, I am so pleased and happy for you. I know how confined you have felt...it can take a huge toll on your mental and physical being! God bless them for pushing you a bit! I bet if you spend some time (all three of you) he will get use to the new companion. I sure hope you take this opportunity to be all that more for David...rested and relaxed!
I'm doing cartwheels in my mind! Yeehaw ... this is good!!!! It will work for both you and for David. Promise.
Just like they say on the airplane:
secure and fasten your own oxygen mask before trying to help another. Bless you
Yes I feel like we are friends even tho we have never meet,I took great comfort in your friendship and I still do, want some free advice....take the help.........you need little get always, not long and not far but you need them to get some mojo back in your life,get your hair done , go to a mall, meet some friends for coffee,heck just go sit in a park with a coffee.
Trust and it will be fine.
Diane
Thank you my friend for your friendship!!! I think getting out is perfect for you!!! Your daughter and friend are right...
Take care of yourself so you can be better for your husband. Balance in your life is very important. Hugs, Deb=^..^=x5
Thank you God for taking care of Delores give her peace in her decision. hugs, to you Dee, Judi
And I am relieved for you!!!! I am glad you made this decision, however strange it may seem at first. And I commend Nelwyn and Karen for convincing you....as I know how stubbornly independent my aunt can be! LOL! :-)
Love you! L~
dolores, i could jump with joy that you'll have just a bit of free time...moments where you can breathe deeper and focus on some different things.
many hugs and high fives for Karen and Nelwyn. :)
p.s. adore the huge smile of delight on the grandbaby's face (sitting on david's lap)!
I'm so glad you listened to them...you have to take care of yourself also....
Yes, Delores...you are doing the right thing....not only for you but for David, too.
Saying prayers for the both of you as always.
Susannah
I am so excited for you Dolores. I am really happy that you are getting some help. Even once a week will help a great deal. Now, you can start planning on what you want to do. The pictures of David with the kids in past years are so precious. Thank God for photographs. They preserve our memories....Christine
Thank you for being such a wonderful blogging friend! Your positive outlook helps us all as we deal with this disease in our lives.
I love the photos you post. The love in your family is very evident.
I'm very happy to hear you will be getting some help. As hard as it is, it is so important for you to have some time to yourself. If nothing else, it will help you recharge.
We had to put my grandmother in a nursing facility this past weekend. It went much better than anticipated. I was so upset by it at first but the facility is lovely and the staff so caring. I hope it will do her some measure of good to be around others all day.
Hugs,
Karla
Sorry I'm Late again!!! Dang...
SO glad you're going to get some help in!!! You Need the extra help sweetie!
Angel Fire?Hahaa....Our good friends live in Angel Fire...
Enjoy the rest!!
hughugs
There is nothing wrong with taking care of yourself, too, friend.
Dear sweet Dolores,
David would not have wanted you to stay housebound caring for him. One of the first (and many) things the Alzheimers Assoc. tells you is that the caregiver must take care of her or himself. I am so grateful that your daughter and your friend encouraged you to seek help. It will make each day a little easier for both you and David.... and the daughter can stop worrying about her mother!!
I have thought of you often these last few days. Your love and concern continues to inspire and enrich my life.
I think it is so important for you, as a caregiver, to also take care of yourself. I think your daughter and friend were very wise to suggest this and even though it may be an adjustment for you, I believe in the long run it will make your journey a bit easier.
Great photos as always. I enjoy seeing the happy times you have shared as a family.
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